Black hole

Terri Mak

 

 

“Black holes” living around us everyday

 

But you know, I can feel the existence of many “Black Holes” living around us everyday. They appear in different places, home, work, party, online… Below are my observation(s):

  • It is not right. It is not good. It is worthless. It wastes of time. (Complaint a lot.)
  • It does not work. Don’t waste time.
  • What if …?  I am worried ….
  • Yeah …. But…
  • “It is too Risky. What if I fail?”
  • “Why me?” “Why Bad Luck always with me?” (Whining)
  • “This is my fame.” No Exit. No way to escape.
  • They Fear, See Danger, Spread Bad News.
  • They think Rejection is the only result. There is No other solution. Their mindset is closed.
  • They are colorblind. They can ONLY see black or dark grey colours.
  • “It is too hard. It is too difficult. Why do I need to do it? …” They usually take “Not Doing” approach. They never move outside their comfort zone.
  • They seek people’s empathy. They like to absorb people’s attention, time, and energy.

 

I think you get what I mean.

 

In an article of 15 signs of negative people, it sounds like some people let those mindset in the default position and let it controls their lives:

“It has to do with the part of the brain called the amygdala, which functions as an alarm and is constantly on the look out for danger, fear and bad news. Scientists believe this to be the brain’s default position. In evolutionary terms, this is understandable; it is all part of the fear-flight mechanism in which the brain uses most of its neurons to keep up with all the bad news that is stored in the memory.”